These are very hard times. It’s easy to look away and even easier to get angry. I feel the delicious temptation to start brewing hate against people who don’t want me here. But that, my friend, is the most important resistance. We must resist to retaliate with hate. The disgusting demonstration in Charlottesville feels so far away from California. It may as well be another country.
It is not.
These people are real. This is happening at home. It’s happening right now.
Do not confuse their anger with strength. These people are afraid. Their statues are being taken down. Their values are being challenged. Their country is changing. More people, different people, are here. Their slice of the pie is getting smaller. Well, to them, it looks that way. It’s not. They believe they are protecting themselves, their beliefs, their families, and this country. Their slice of the pie.
I see it with my eyes, ears, and heart. I see it in Silicon Valley. I’m sure the Googler who bemoaned racial diversity thought he was doing the right thing. Tech companies said to create a culture for vulnerability. Say what’s on your mind. We said all ideas are welcome. We said to accept different perspectives and share your wild thoughts. Be brave. Be bold. Move fast. Break things. That’s how we innovate.
That’s how we win.
We didn’t know to include an asterisk that said you must practice human decency and kindness. We forgot to say to use the intellect we hired you for. We forgot to tell you to think about the repercussions of your actions. We mistakenly thought that was implied.
We model behavior from our leaders. We model our parents, teachers, priests, managers, and too, our President. Be careful there. Many people in America are afraid right now. Some are afraid life will change and some are afraid it will stay the same. Show them strength and show them kindness. Show them what it looks like.
There is one thing, that I hope, to you, is self-evident. We are all created equal with certain unalienable rights. Among these are life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. We are in a deep conflict. This is happening at home. It’s happening right now. And these, unfortunately, are very hard times.